Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, and It's Time to Get Real About It
“Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, and It’s Time to Get Real About It” is a ground breaking book shattering the silence surrounding partner abuse where the target of the abuse is a man and the source of the abuse is a woman. It challenges the common perception that partner abuse only happens to women.
Counselor and relationship coach, Ann Silvers, M.A., questions the cultural trend to ignore, condone, laugh at, or even applaud women treating men in ways that would be rightfully condemned if the genders were reversed. Her unique perspective as a woman who herself was the target of partner abuse by a man, and who also recognizes the prevalence and pain of abuse when it is a woman who is being abusive and a man who is being targeted, along with her work helping female and male clients who are dealing with partner abuse, has resulted in a book that is a cultural game changer.
This book stands alone with its gripping personal stories and detailed yet concise explanations of every form of partner abuse of men by their female partners: verbal, emotional, psychological, financial, spiritual, legal, physical, and sexual.
“It Happens, It Hurts” describes what abuse of men by women looks like, why women do it, how we are supporting and encouraging women to abuse men,how men get pulled into these dysfunctional relationships, why they stay, the impact on men, and what can be done about it.
Ann Silvers offers a myriad of possible reasons other than self-defense for a woman to act in ways that belong somewhere on the abuse continuum, 10 aspects for a man to consider so he can figure out the reality of his relationship and options for the future, and 5 steps for a woman to stop abusing. She describes the 7-stage sales job that abusive women use on men to lure them into relationships and keep them there, how Dating Girl traps a man before revealing her true personality, and how manipulative women play the Domestic Violence con game by falsely accusing men of partner abuse.
This book arms men with the information they need to avoid getting hooked into bad relationships. It provides refreshing recognition, understanding, and direction for men who are struggling to deal with, or recover from, difficult relationships with women. And it helps women examine how they treat their husbands and boyfriends.
“It Happens, It Hurts” is a roadmap for men and women looking to help their brothers, fathers, sons, and friends who are being abused by women or teach them how to avoid getting pulled in by them. It is a call to action for helping professionals (teachers, counselors, ministers, police officers . . .) and all people who are willing to see what is really going on.